R U OK? Day

R U OK? Day

What, and when, is R U OK? Day?

This year R U OK? Day fell on Thursday September 14th. It is an annual day in September dedicated to remind people to ask family, friends and colleagues the question R U OK? in a meaningful way.

But you don’t need to wait until the national day of action, to ask R U OK? – conversations need to happen every day! Staying connected and having meaningful relationships is important, and, after all, it only takes a moment to ask R U OK?

Being involved is easy. You have got what it takes!

How to Ask…

The simple steps that could change a life are as easy as 1,2,3…

  1. Ask R U OK?
  • Be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your manner
  • Help them to feel comfortable sharing by asking questions such as “What’s been happening?”


  • If they don’t want to talk you simply tell them you are still concerned about changes in their behaviour and that you care about them, you could follow up with “Please call me if you ever want to chat” or “is there someone else you would rather talk to?”
  1. Listen
  • Take what they say seriously, don’t interrupt, don’t judge
  • Encourage them to explain: “How are you feeling about that”
  1. Encourage Action
  • Ask “What have you done in the past to manage similar situations?”
  • Ask “How would you like me to support you?”
  • If they have been feeling ‘really down’ for more than 2 weeks encourage them to see a health professional. Be positive about the role of professionals in getting through tough times.
  1. Check in
  • Pop a reminder in your diary, phone or Outlook to call them in a couple of weeks. If they are really struggling, follow up with them sooner.
  • Stay in touch and be there for them. Genuine care and concern can make a positive difference.

Pay it forward

Now you have been equipped, empowered and inspired you can pay it forward and encourage more people to ask R U OK? In your family, friendship group, workplace and community. Contact R U OK?


for more information and free resources to use in your school, workplace or community. Or you may wish to purchase merchandise, host an event, partner, volunteer or donate, there are so many ways to be involved!

What if I, or someone I know, is not OK?

If you, or someone you know, are struggling with anxiety or depression, professional and confidential support is available.

Please contact:

Lifeline 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support)

beyondblue Support Service 1300 22 4636 (24/7 advice and support).



Catherine Thiele, Health, Safety & Return to Work Advisor, National Pharmacies


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